Izadora Theodore

Professor Holly, Pappas

English 101

 

Discrimination against father’s and their rights to child custody

 

Fathers walk into family courts, generally hauled in under a wife’s complaint for divorce – and can’t believe the injustice they face. These courts deny them their children and other rights at the whim of the judge. The fathers’ reaction is justified because we all have an innate understanding of what’s right and what’s wrong. And we all understand that we have fundamental rights that governments should uphold. This article gives proof of their parental rights and evidence of family court corruption. The rights we expect are ‘unalienable rights’. It was these rights that the U.S. was formed to secure according to America’s Declaration of Independence:  “the unalienable right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”. I believe the court system should also treat custody’s battles fairly because some kids get abuse by the parent that they decide to let the child stay with. Also the judge they never want to see the father point, they always give the mother the upper hand. It is not right for the father to pay child support. In this country you can barely find an article saying a mom is paying child support, why does the father have to pay child support. Some father want to be here for their child. In my opinion I think they should get rid of child support, because the father has bills to pay, clothes to put on his back. If he can take care of his child why not let him instead of ruining his life by taking thousands of money out of his pocket.

 

More than 1 million men are raising children on their own in America, according to the Williams Institute — and many are doing it by choice. A good father loves his children, but he doesn’t let them get away with murder. He strongly disapproves of his children’s misdeeds, using tough love to prove a point. He does this through the power of his words, not his fists… He allows his kids to make some mistakes. A good father realizes that his children are human, and that making mistakes is part of growing up. Spending money recklessly, getting into minor car accidents, getting drunk and sick for the first time, even dating questionable women are rites of passage, and a good father recognizes this. However, he makes it clear that repeated irresponsibility won’t be tolerated…He’s open-minded. A good father understands that times, people and tastes change over the years, and doesn’t try to maintain some gold standard of his own time…He teaches his children to appreciate things. I believe that if a couple get into a divorce and happen to have children together the judge should give equal rights. Because having a child is a two way street not one way unless if the parent does not want to be a part of that child’s life.

 

Why do women get child custody more often?

A mother is typically the one to feed the child from birth through the toddler years and that closeness allows for a different kind of bond than a father might have with a child. Mothers are more likely to take more time off work or stay home entirely with their child than fathers. As a result, young children tend to look to their moms first for basic daily needs and emotional support. In many states, the law presumes that children will be best served by having a meaningful relationship with both parents. One factor many courts consider in determining custody is therefore whether one parent is more likely to have a healthy relationship between the children and their other parent. A parent who has tried to poison the child’s relationship with the other parent or refused to allow contact with the other parent won’t fare well here, unless there’s a good reason (such as child abuse or domestic violence).

 

‘father’s campaign for family law ‘equality’ by Leona O’Neill talks about The Northern Ireland Fathers’ Rights Movement gathered at Londonderry Magistrates Court on a Friday, to call for an overhaul of family law and highlight issues surrounding child custody, and also child support that affect fathers and their children. The group says many of its members are fathers who desire to share the parenting of their children equally with the mothers of their children in the aftermath of a relationship breakdown or divorce. They were protesting about parental alienation which basically means when a child is not allowed to see one parent. Some of the father’s that were protesting had not seen their children for almost a year. The court did not offer much help for the fathers. One of the protester said “We are campaigning for reform of family law and want to bring to an end a system were unsubstantiated allegations can be made against the non-resident parent without supporting evidence. The fact is that it is still the case that in 2017, mothers and fathers do not have equal rights. We live in a society where it is the accepted norm that women should demand equality in the public sphere, while maintaining special privileges in the private sphere. We say this is unjust and demand equality now.” Fathers who lose custody were consistently found to be at greater risk for chronic health conditions, psychological impairment, and death. Of particular concern is the suicide risk of divorced men who become legally disenfranchised from their children.

 

 

A Texas mother accused of placing a plastic bag over her 1-year-old son’s head recorded her actions and then sent the video to relatives because she was outraged the child’s father had a new girlfriend, according to family members.

Janelle Peterkin, 23, appeared in court Monday on a charge of child endangerment after she was arrested for allegedly sending disturbing images of her son’s abuse.

Ra’Neicha Broadnax, 20, the boy’s aunt, told the Daily News she received photos and videos of her nephew being slapped, his fingers being burned with a lighter and cigarettes and him with a plastic bag over his head.

Broadnax, who lives in Richmond, Va., said Peterkin sent the video and images out of rage over her ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend on April 13. “She sent the pictures to her ex-boyfriend to disturb him,” prosecutors said. She was free on  a $15,000.

I believe that the court system should treat parents fairly, and if one abuse their child they should automatically be remove from them. Not all mothers can be good to their child, the court system always automatically give the mom the custody of the child. Some mothers can be crazier than the other. Look how this mother abuse her son, just because she wanted to upset her baby’s father. I believe that father’s discrimination is a big thing when it comes to custody, and I believe the judges should look into the father’s right instead of giving the mother custody of the child right away.

 

Work Citations;

Dragon, Greg. “Is Support for Single Fathers A Joke? • Hall of The Black Dragon.” Hall of The Black Dragon. Hall of The Black Dragon Magazine, 20 July 2013. Web. 20 May 2017.

Google Search. Google, n.d. Web. 20 May 2017.

PressReader.com – Connecting People Through News. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 May 2017.

Elizalde, Elizabeth. “Tex. Mom Charged after Allegedly Sending Videos of Son’s Abuse.” NY Daily News. N.p., 17 Apr. 2017. Web. 20 May 2017.

Izadora Theodore

Professor Holly, Pappas

English 101

 

Enlgish 101 Final, spring 2017

 

 

Essay 2

The blog is was not as bad as I thought it was going to be, however there are some disadvantages and advantages using the blog. The advantage is that it as free not every blog out there are free most blogs will charge. It allowed me to share my article without feeling judges or criticize. It also allows other by sharing their article, views and comments to build a network with similar interest. If you get stuck on an essay you can just see if anyone has the same type of topic as you, and you can either look at what their wrote so you can have an idea of what to write about or ask them for help. Instead of waiting for the professor to grade you essay, they can actually just comment on your essay to see what you need to fix. The disadvantages of using the blog is that you don’t really have the confident on yourself , well I didn’t I was scared that someone was going to read my post and judge me or criticize my work. I would require the blog for another English 101 class, but without having to write essay’s back to back . It can be a bit confusing and you  can lose track of which essay to write you just have to keep track of what the essay’s that you are writing.

 

Essay 3

In my opinion I enjoyed writing the memoir, and I believe that it belong in a freshman composition class. I think when a class has ”composition” in it you do a lot of writing of different topics or subjects. When I did my memoir on my theme ”family” it actually helped me learned some stuff about my family that I never about. As I was writing my other essays everything started to connect ,and I just wanted to write more and more.  before writing a memoir you have to choose a topic and if you pick a topic that you are really interested in then the rest of your essay you will most likely enjoy writing them. When I first chose my memoir I pick immigrant family moving to the us, because that was something I did not really wanted to write about , because then I would have to go  and ask  my mom questions that I never knew she would answer but she did. I think the memoir belongs in English 101 because it will help the people to start writing a bit more, because not everyone sit there and like to write in  a daily basis. And also it will help other’s to get ready for English 102. Later on as you passes they will be a lot of writing .I think the memoir should stay because it will help to think a lot more and think more instead of seating in class reading a novel that you may like or not and write about it.

 

Essay 4

When it comes to research papers do not use google, because you will find less and false information. You should use good resources that has straight facts like google schooler, new York times or go one the library data base. When I was writing my argument essay on” whether or not fathers are discriminate when it comes to custody”. it was a bit hard when I was looking on google or Wikipedia, because they had false information’s and no facts. When I used the library database I found a lot of articles and it was very helpful . Just don’t use Wikipedia or go on google.

I wanted to write my argument proposal about divorce. how come when ever parents go to court for custody the judge always give the kids to the mom and not the dad. they automatically believe that the mothers are always good for the kid. But sometime it is always good for the child to be raise by their father because in my opinion fathers have a little bit more disciplines  then mothers. but in the other hand mothers shows love and affection to their kids they have that tough love for their kids.

Izadora Theodore

Professor Holly, Pappas

English 101

 

Text Wrestling.

 

In the Article ” All joy and no fun” by Jennifer Senior explain how some people that have children’s are happier, but in the article it say that most  studies show that mothers are less happy than fathers, that single parents are less happy still, that babies and toddlers are the hardest, and that each successive child produces diminishing returns. Also, it say how parent’s do not really enjoy parenting because of the children. I know that having kids is not something that parents planned out, but if you end up having one you should at least enjoy it. The article also talked about a movie of a mother who worked a full day shift ,and when she got home she made dinner for her son. Her8 year old son would not do he’s homework because of lack of discipline and wanted to watch a movie. The boy refuse to do he’s homework until he gets into a certain part so he can pause it. He’s Mother did not agree she wanted him to do the homework immediately. He’s mom had to give him some discipline by pausing the movie no matter how angry he was. She had to make sure he gets his priorities done first.  In a documentary that compares the lives of four newborns- one in Japan, one in Namibia, one in Mongolia, and one in the United States (San Francisco). Lois Nachamie quoted “I don’t mean to idealize the lives of the Namibian women,” she says. “But it was hard not to notice how calm  they were. They were beading their children’s ankles and decorating them with sienna, clearly enjoying just sitting and playing with them, and we’re here often thinking of all of this stuff as labor.”

In my opinion I believe that children’s that grew up in a different country will mostly likely be different because of how their parents treat them. Because I grew up with both mom and dad , but my some of my friends grew up with one parents because their parents might have gotten a divorce or might have passed away. Middle class parents spend a lot of time answering question from their kids so they can make sure their kids are getting all the information they need, Meanwhile the upper class parents are so focus on money and giving their kids they do not teach them any life lesson, also is never there for their kids. But according to this article call ”should you value moment to moment happiness” . sociologists named kei nomaguchi and Melissa A. Milkie followed a couple for five to seven years. Couples who became parents did more households and felt less in control. The married women were less depressed after they had kid. The authors also found that the most depressed people were single fathers, and Milkie speculates that perhaps it’s because they wanted to be involved in their children’s lives but weren’t. Robin Simon finds something similar: The least depressed parents are those whose underage children are in the house, and the most are those whose aren’t. In my opinion I think that if parenting makes you unhappy, you should feel better if you’re spared the task of doing it.

Also it said how mothers are less happy than fathers, single parents are still less happy. Is it because they don’t know whether to have kids, when, how many—may be one of the reasons parents are less happy?. They become parents later in life. There’s a loss of freedom, a loss of autonomy. It’s totally different from going from your parents’ house to immediately having a baby. They end up not having time for themselves and end up stressing out. But when people wait to have children’s you tend to have time to kind of enjoy your adult hood. For example you will have time to go on vacations, basically you will have a little bit more freedom.

I am not a parent but I have a godson and he is now 2 years old. Parenting is not an easy thing especially dealing with kids that are in the ages 1-9 . There is a lot of responsibilities – cleaning, feeding, give the child attention. But I agree with the article because it explains the parents point of view and how they feel. Because godson mother can be a little frustrated at time and she look like she want to give, sometime my Godson can be a full hand . I also think that pregnancy is not something that is plan it’s a blessing yes kids can be a little bit overwhelming but you cannot give up . the best thing to do is to give your all and everything that you have to guide your child in the right directions, and also to give them the best life/ childhood they can ever have.

Izadora Theodore

Proffessor Holly Pappas

English 101

4/1/17

Ethnography Final Draft.

 

”Family” takes many forms, and it is surrounded by the comparatively  impressive  ” choice Moms”-single women who choose to have a child without a male partner. Growing up  with a single mom and two older siblings , my Mother would of never thought that she herself would be raising two kids on her own. I always wanted to what is it like to be an immigrant single mother? What were the transition on moving from Haiti to here? Or what was it like to fit in with the other U.S single mothers. Therefore, I asked the only one person who can answer these questions which is my Mother. She is a  strong and intelligence who has been raising my brother and I on her own for about 8 years.

Guerda Balde, which is my Mother’s name lived in Haiti for 35 years, had made an extremely decision on moving my brother and I here from Haiti. My mother is 5’1, born in Belladere, Haiti visited some states in the U.S. For example New York, Georgia, and Los Angeles. Back in high school she use to be a dancer ,and the school that she went to in Haiti was a performing arts type of school, The students were rewarded by performing in the World championship of performing arts . After visiting she always wanted to moved here, but did not make a final decision until she had my brother and I.

My mother explained to me that Haiti is not the same as when she was growing up , it was peaceful and everyone kind of got along with each other also they weren’t a lot of kidnapping and killing. When her and my father separated, she made the decision to move my brother and I here to America. Although Haiti is a good country ,but there was too many killing and kidnapping also there was the big Earth quake in Haiti in 2009. My mother had no other choice to move up because everything that we had were destroyed, and some of our family member passed away. Also during the earthquake my Little brother was stuck under a house and by the grace of god, my Dad had removed him. He had to come to the U.S to seek some medical health.

When my Mother moved here she barely spoke any English, she taught herself how to read and write in English. I also helped her out since I was going to school and learning the language a lot faster than she was. Her first was being a Team leader at Marriott Hotel in Fort Lauderdale, Miami. Her shift was from 7pm-7am, she hard to work extra and hard so she can provide for us. My mother explained to me that her transition here was very bad . She Quoted” the transition from Haiti to here was a bit terrible, I miss my family and friends back home. This country is not the country that I imagine living in, because back In Haiti I could have been a doctor or law and moving here made me feel so low and insecure. I did not know the language thank god I had a friend to help me find somewhere to live and work, but a mother have to do whatever she can to provide for her children’s.”

I asked her what is it like when you are the most scariest thing about being a single mother? She said ”Raising two kids by myself knowing that I know nothing in this new world was really scary, because I had no idea on what I was going to get myself into. The most important is not having no one helping me out, like when I was pregnant so many people were happy saying that they cannot wait till I have the babies, and now that my kids are grown no one is there to help me out. Also, I have to make sure that I am free and up to date in my child’s life make sure I know everything that is going on in my child’s life. Because if you just go to work, and ignore your child’s their going to end up not going to school, stealing, or fighting. Therefore you have to be there for your child physically, financially(until their old enough to provide for themselves) and emotionally.”

Even though my Mother moved from Haiti to here she still participate in the Haitians culture. For example, she cook Haitian food, listen to Haitian music(kompa and jazz), and she keep herself up to date to everything that is going on in the Haitian community. I asked my mother what is the different between an American single moms vs an immigrant single mom-she said ” The both has their similarities and different. The similarities is that we are both single mom’s that are providing for our child ,also to do the best that we can so they can have a bright future a future better than us. But as an immigrant mom its harder ,because in Haiti we have families to help here and there. We also have a maid to help us, and I am able to afford it. In Haiti I could have been  Doctor or a lawyer. Mother’s here have the opportunity to put the father on child support, in Haiti we can’t do that”.

I consider a mother as an hero, because of the amount of stuff that they do by their self, They are strong and intelligent woman’s without  the support of no one. Kids now a days that has a single are always grateful because they know how are their mother struggle with them. In my opinion I believe that a kid who grow up by their mom are most likely to have a brighter future , than a kid getting raise by their Dads

”Family” takes many forms, and it is surrounded by the comparatively prodigy of ” choice Moms”-single women who choose to have a child without a male partner. Growing up  with a single mom and two older siblings , my Mother would of never thought that she herself would be raising two kids on her own. I always wanted to what is it like to be an immigrant single mother? What were the transition on moving from Haiti to here? Or what was it like to fit in with the other U.S single mothers. Therefore, I asked the only one person who can answer these questions which is my Mother. She is a  strong and intelligence who has been raising my brother and I on her own for about 8 years.

Guerda Balde, which is my Mother’s name lived in Haiti for 35 years, had made an extremely decision on moving my brother and I here from Haiti. My mother is 5’1, born in Belladere, Haiti visited some states in the U.S. For example New York, Georgia, and Los Angeles. Back in high school she use to be a dancer ,and the school that she went to in Haiti was a performing arts type of school, The students were rewarded by performing in the World championship of performing arts . After visiting she always wanted to moved here, but did not make a final decision until she had my brother and I.

My mother explained to me that Haiti is not the same as when she was growing up , it was peaceful and everyone kind of got along with each other also they weren’t a lot of kidnapping and killing. When her and my father separated, she made the decision to move my brother and I here to America. Although Haiti is a good country ,but there was too many killing and kidnapping also there was the big Earth quake in Haiti in 2009. My mother had no other choice to move up because everything that we had were destroyed, and some of our family member passed away. Also during the earthquake my Little brother was stuck under a house and by the grace of god, my Dad had removed him. He had to come to the U.S to seek some medical health.

When my Mother moved here she barely spoke any English, she taught herself how to read and write in English. I also helped her out since I was going to school and learning the language a lot faster than she was. Her first was being a Team leader at Marriott Hotel in Fort Lauderdale, Miami. Her shift was from 7pm-7am, she hard to work extra and hard so she can provide for us. My mother explained to me that her transition here was very bad . She Quoted” the transition from Haiti to here was a bit terrible, I miss my family and friends back home. This country is not the country that I imagine living in, because back In Haiti I could have been a doctor or law and moving here made me feel so low and insecure. I did not know the language thank god I had a friend to help me find somewhere to live and work, but a mother have to do whatever she can to provide for her children’s.”

I asked her what is it like when you are the most scariest thing about being a single mother? She said ”Raising two kids by myself knowing that I know nothing in this new world was really scary, because I had no idea on what I was going to get myself into. The most important is not having no one helping me out, like when I was pregnant so many people were happy saying that they cannot wait till I have the babies, and now that my kids are grown no one is there to help me out. Also, I have to make sure that I am free and up to date in my child’s life make sure I know everything that is going on in my child’s life. Because if you just go to work, and ignore your child’s their going to end up not going to school, stealing, or fighting. Therefore you have to be there for your child physically, financially(until their old enough to provide for themselves) and emotionally.”

Even though my Mother moved from Haiti to here she still participate in the Haitians culture. For example, she cook Haitian food, listen to Haitian music(kompa and jazz), and she keep herself up to date to everything that is going on in the Haitian community. I asked my mother what is the different between an American single moms vs an immigrant single mom-she said ” The both has their similarities and different. The similarities is that we are both single mom’s that are providing for our child ,also to do the best that we can so they can have a bright future a future better than us. But as an immigrant mom its harder ,because in Haiti we have families to help here and there. We also have a maid to help us, and I am able to afford it. In Haiti I could have been  Doctor or a lawyer. Mother’s here have the opportunity to put the father on child support, in Haiti we can’t do that”.

I consider a mother as an hero, because of the amount of stuff that they do by their self, and they suffer a lot well it all a depend how your child turns out to be. I know that my Mother told me that some days she just shed in tear, but it tears of joy. She realize how far she came and how much she had achieve and she thank god every day for helping her getting through the good times and bad times.